Monday, June 12, 2017

The Latest from The Meads...

There are many times when I feel there's nothing to write about... no special events, no special occasions. No updates on Maia, no new pics. But when I asked Marcus about what I should blog about, he simply answered "just write about how we're doing." Wow, what a concept!

I can honestly say we're doing ok. There always seems to be room for improvement, but I think that goes together with striving to make life better, by doing better things and being a better person. But at the same time, I'm very proud of who we've become, who we are now, and where we're headed.

Our transition into a new normal life since Maia's passing has had it's share of ups and downs, but we're very determined and focus on what matters most... us. We've had our share of medical issues, including Gordon's cornea transplant, his chronic back and sciatica problems, and more recently, his complications from hernia surgery. Marcus continues to slowly get better with each passing year, and has been able to manage his grief and anger management issues little by little. Although he prefers one-on-one sessions with his therapist, he tried out some group sessions earlier this year and did ok with it. We're so grateful he has such an amazing support system! As for me, I've been pretty healthy for the most part, which is always a good thing. I've now become a regular blood donor and I get excited when I know I blood drive is coming up! As a result I've monitored my iron better too. It's also been a year since I had my Lasik eye surgery and I'm loving it! I only wish I didn't look into it sooner, but it's still one of the best decisions I've ever made. It was an opportunity I couldn't pass up, acutally it was a Groupon Valentines from my wonderful husband that we couldn't pass up!

On the home front, we're looking into finally moving into our own place. It's probably been one of the most stressful things since Maia passed away, since being unemployed was almost always an issue. But Gordon has been with Lexus now for almost 3 years. He started out part-time but is now working full-time. I'm currently still on the job hunt since last year my employer relocated to the Washington-Oregon area. They now live in Washington state where there is no income tax and their business is set up in Oregon where there is no sales tax. It was one of those opportunities they couldn't pass up, and I don't blame them. For now I'm enjoying the limited time I have left as a stay-at-home mom. I'm more selective this time around and I want to find that job and company that's a great fit for my skills and personality, and a place that cares about their employees. It might be more difficult to find but I think it's worth it, and I'm patient too! Plus, I want to work at a place where I want to be, where I love coming to work... so we'll see what happens. Aside from keeping up with Marcus' schedule of activities, I've been volunteering at school whenever I can. This includes being a part of the Staff Appreciation Committee. It's a big deal and a great honor to celebrate the people who have such a big influence in our kids' lives. I'm always so in awe of how they handle so many kids and personalities, not to mention the curriculum, low wages, and the other behind the scenes of the teacher life. We have been very fortunate that Marcus has had such wonderful and supportive teachers throughout his school life. They've all been there for him inside and outside of the classroom, and there were times when he really needed their guidance and support. Plus, it always helps to have teachers that love and care for your child, and are on the same parenting page as you are. They tell Marcus the same things we do, but since it's not coming from parents' mouths, it's heard differently. I guess you can say he's learned to tune us out and is pretty good at it!

We are so ready for the summer! As always, we'll be doing our best to keep Marcus active and stimulated, both mentally and physically. We already have some family 5K runs planned, so we're going to do our best to continue to be healthy right alongside Marcus. Amongst all the activities and adventures we'll encounter this summer and all future summers, one of our top priorities will always be keeping Maia's memory alive, and with purpose. She will always be an inspiration, and it's our mission to continue inspiring others.

Since 2015, the summer months have taken on a new meaning for our family. In other words, it's almost time for the 3rd Annual Heart of Maia Toy Drive!!! We're currently working out the details, so please stay tuned!!


  1. This is such a wonderful post. I am so glad to read that you are doing well in the wake of Maia's passing. It is so wonderful that you organize the toy drive. How did Gordon's cornea transplant go? I hope that it went well and that he will recover quickly from it. God bless you, you are truly blessed.


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